20 February 2007

Debilitating or Liberating?


Yes, that was the question posed to me today by one of my work colleagues. I don't quite know how we got on to the subject - it was quite surreal. One minute she was asking me how to use Microsoft Visio and the next minute, she was asking "How have you been since xx left?"

I must say I had to really put my thinking cap on for a response. I've reached a point now where I don't even think about it - I get up in the morning, go to work, come back home in the evening and chill - it hadn't even crossed my mind until that moment. But thinking about the past 8 months and how I've been since it all happened has made me realise that it's actually been quite a liberating experience!

Now before everyone thinks "Oooh what a heartless old hag", I'm not saying that I've been devoid of all feeling. On the whole it's been a very said and painful process to go through. Sometimes an old picture or even a smell can bring back a good memory about how good things used to be and before you know it, I'm reaching for the tissues. But out of all the well meaning advice I've been given (the worst being, 'Cheer up, it may never happen!' - aarrrggh!), the best one was 'focus on your family, your friends and be thankful for what you have'. In fact, it's been the best advice I've ever had. I've put this into practice and here are some fab things that I focus on:-
  1. If I want to lounge about at the weekend in just my pyjamas and my fluffy bunny socks, I can do so to my hearts content.
  2. I can look at what I want to on the telly, without being harangued into changing the channel.
  3. I don't have to 'queue' to use the computer anymore.
  4. The 'Smelly Sock Mountain' at the end of the bed is now a thing of the past.
  5. When I choose a CD to listen to, I can actually listen to it there and then, without having to organise an expedition to hunt it down because it's been put back in a completely different case.
  6. The bathroom now resembles a haven of peace and tranquility, not some grotty hole frequented by 'Wee John Poo-Pong McHonk'!!
So to answer my colleagues question, all in all, things are very much tickety-boo! I've discovered that there is in fact, life after separation - Hurrah!!

Lots of love to you my fellow stitchers! xxxxx


stitcherw said...

Good for you, I'm glad that you can focus on the good. Attitude truly makes a huge difference. As for liberating, I don't know if you like country music or not, but George Strait has a song called She let herself go. It is about a woman whose man left and when he did, it says she let herself go. Go to the beach (which he had said was to far), go on a cruise, go on a date, go get a car, go..... life does go on {{hugs}}

BlissxStitches said...

Big hugs from me too. I'm glad you are finding the good things in life that come with change.

Singular Stitches said...

LOL! 'Wee John Poo-Pong McHonk'!!
I love your sense of humor! We'd get on so well, another smart a$$! :o)

It sounds like you're really focusing on the positive, which will make YOU feel better and not all the negative which eat you up inside.